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Many were surprised by the unexpected turn in the personal lives of former mayor Bill de Blasio and Cherlan McCray. And we are not talking about the very fact of their separation, but about the fact that the couple plans to continue to live in the same house. Curbed found out more about the new fashion.
It may seem unusual, but not unique: cohabitation after a divorce is now becoming more and more popular. For example, Tom and Ariana from the Vanderpump Rules show are still sharing a home during their acrimonious divorce, and this seems to be due to financial considerations.
“I’m paying off a decent mortgage,” Ariana explains her reluctance to rent a house during the divorce. “I’m not going to spend more money because of someone else’s problems.”
What’s more, her future ex sleeps in the guest room: “Maybe I can hear his footsteps, but that’s it.” And Kevin Costner’s ex-wife stays in the family home, even after he agreed to pay for her move and $30,000 a month rent.
Living together with an ex-spouse after a divorce is even more common among ordinary people in New York. An alternative to division of property. “Honestly, I have repeatedly seen cases where divorced couples stayed in the same house, usually for financial reasons,” says Dmitry Petrovsky, an agent for Corcoran.
The organizational aspects can be just as difficult as the emotional ones.
Divorced staircase
Several years ago, Petrovsky received a call about the sale of a house in Borough Park, owned by a divorced couple who already had adult children. When he went inside, he found that they had divided the house in half with a wall. Even the stairs were divided. They lived like this for about three years, but then one of them met someone and it didn’t work anymore. Selling such a layout was difficult, but in the end a buyer was found.
“The stairs were very narrow, half a meter on each side,” he says. “It was weird, the whole thing was weird.” They may have been inspired by Steve Martin, who reportedly divided his San Remo apartment during his divorce with a soundproof wall.
On the subject: A court in New York ruled that polyamorous unions have the same rights as married couples
Don’t forget to mark your territory
Michael Stanley, a real estate agent at Keller Williams, faced a similar situation. The couple who were selling their “dream house” in the Bronx during a messy divorce. Since the real estate market was unstable at the time, the sale of the house took some time. During this time, the couple bought duplicates of basic household items so they wouldn’t share anything, stuck “my stuff” stickers on items they shouldn’t have touched, and worked various schedules at a nearby hospital to avoid seeing each other. “Michael even put white surgical tape on the double sinks in the bathroom to visually show the separation,” says Stanley.
Horse move or depilatory shampoo
Sometimes divorced couples, not wanting to endure each other anymore, resort to strange methods. “I had a client, she and her husband lived together in a beautiful house in the Hamptons. She just couldn’t stand him – he cheated on her,” says Nancy Shemtob, a prominent divorce lawyer who has represented celebrities such as Mary-Kate Olsen and Tory Burch.
“So she started adding depilatory cream to his shampoo. His hair got thinner and thinner. He thought it was the stress of a divorce, so he ended up moving out.”
big swedish family
But not everything is connected with negative feelings: there are those who are specifically looking for an opportunity to live with a former partner. A few years ago, real estate agent Mark Martov sold a house near the border of Clinton Hill and Bed Sty. At first he thought it was a married couple, because the man came to see the house, and then returned with a woman and a young son.
When they brought another couple to view at home, Martov thought they were friends or relatives helping them make their buying decisions. However, when they started talking about the need to install a new internal staircase, the situation became clear: this couple had already divorced and planned to live with new partners. Each couple occupied their own floor in the house, and they rented out a two-story apartment on the lower level.
“Obviously, they did it for financial reasons and to be closer to their son,” says Martov. “But most people in the divorce phase would rather move in with their parents than be stuck with their ex.”
Habit or total economy
Sometimes these situations have a happy ending. For example, in the early 2000s, real estate agent Heather McMaster met a couple who successfully nested together after their divorce. They decided to use different apartments in the house until the children were adults. When it came time to sell the house, they realized that after paying taxes and sharing the profits, there would be no money left to buy a new home.
So they decided to stay in their house and make repairs. They divided the house into two parts: the first floor and the garden were taken by the woman with her new partner, and the second floor went to the man, where he built a beautiful terrace.
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Many divorced New Yorkers live together for years to save money: sacrificing comfort for the budget
Many were surprised by the unexpected turn in the personal lives of former mayor Bill de Blasio and Cherlan McCray. And we are not talking about the very fact of their separation, but about the fact that the couple plans to continue to live in the same house. Curbed found out more about the new fashion.
It may seem unusual, but not unique: cohabitation after a divorce is now becoming more and more popular. For example, Tom and Ariana from the Vanderpump Rules show are still sharing a home during their acrimonious divorce, and this seems to be due to financial considerations.
“I’m paying off a decent mortgage,” Ariana explains her reluctance to rent a house during the divorce. “I’m not going to spend more money because of someone else’s problems.”
What’s more, her future ex sleeps in the guest room: “Maybe I can hear his footsteps, but that’s it.” And Kevin Costner’s ex-wife stays in the family home, even after he agreed to pay for her move and $30,000 a month rent.
Living together with an ex-spouse after a divorce is even more common among ordinary people in New York. An alternative to division of property. “Honestly, I have repeatedly seen cases where divorced couples stayed in the same house, usually for financial reasons,” says Dmitry Petrovsky, an agent for Corcoran.
The organizational aspects can be just as difficult as the emotional ones.
Divorced staircase
Several years ago, Petrovsky received a call about the sale of a house in Borough Park, owned by a divorced couple who already had adult children. When he went inside, he found that they had divided the house in half with a wall. Even the stairs were divided. They lived like this for about three years, but then one of them met someone and it didn’t work anymore. Selling such a layout was difficult, but in the end a buyer was found.
“The stairs were very narrow, half a meter on each side,” he says. “It was weird, the whole thing was weird.” They may have been inspired by Steve Martin, who reportedly divided his San Remo apartment during his divorce with a soundproof wall.
On the subject: A court in New York ruled that polyamorous unions have the same rights as married couples
Don’t forget to mark your territory
Michael Stanley, a real estate agent at Keller Williams, faced a similar situation. The couple who were selling their “dream house” in the Bronx during a messy divorce. Since the real estate market was unstable at the time, the sale of the house took some time. During this time, the couple bought duplicates of basic household items so they wouldn’t share anything, stuck “my stuff” stickers on items they shouldn’t have touched, and worked various schedules at a nearby hospital to avoid seeing each other. “Michael even put white surgical tape on the double sinks in the bathroom to visually show the separation,” says Stanley.
Horse move or depilatory shampoo
Sometimes divorced couples, not wanting to endure each other anymore, resort to strange methods. “I had a client, she and her husband lived together in a beautiful house in the Hamptons. She just couldn’t stand him – he cheated on her,” says Nancy Shemtob, a prominent divorce lawyer who has represented celebrities such as Mary-Kate Olsen and Tory Burch.
“So she started adding depilatory cream to his shampoo. His hair got thinner and thinner. He thought it was the stress of a divorce, so he ended up moving out.”
big swedish family
But not everything is connected with negative feelings: there are those who are specifically looking for an opportunity to live with a former partner. A few years ago, real estate agent Mark Martov sold a house near the border of Clinton Hill and Bed Sty. At first he thought it was a married couple, because the man came to see the house, and then returned with a woman and a young son.
When they brought another couple to view at home, Martov thought they were friends or relatives helping them make their buying decisions. However, when they started talking about the need to install a new internal staircase, the situation became clear: this couple had already divorced and planned to live with new partners. Each couple occupied their own floor in the house, and they rented out a two-story apartment on the lower level.
“Obviously, they did it for financial reasons and to be closer to their son,” says Martov. “But most people in the divorce phase would rather move in with their parents than be stuck with their ex.”
Habit or total economy
Sometimes these situations have a happy ending. For example, in the early 2000s, real estate agent Heather McMaster met a couple who successfully nested together after their divorce. They decided to use different apartments in the house until the children were adults. When it came time to sell the house, they realized that after paying taxes and sharing the profits, there would be no money left to buy a new home.
So they decided to stay in their house and make repairs. They divided the house into two parts: the first floor and the garden were taken by the woman with her new partner, and the second floor went to the man, where he built a beautiful terrace.
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